How territorial are you? Am i normal?

[JDM 101]

You should have applied this when this happen. jk http://www.ek9.org/forum/off-topic/21585-went-visit-friend-oh-god-i-surprised-nsfw.html

-nobody better lay there eyes on my friends for more than 2 seconds.
-i don't like it when someone is rude to one of my friends, even if its one of there friends that i may not know.
-if i am out with a female friend that i am not having sexual relations with i still ALWAYS make sure she will remain in visual sight, if not i make sure to leave a friend with her if i have to use the toilet or something.

 

[PaulJ]

you are not alone blinx...we have somethings in common specially with the female issues..but as a male it is our right to protect the female

Protect them from what? Obvious things like not letting them walk home at night etc, but what exactly is going to happen if someone looks at her for more than two seconds or you go for a piss and leave them alone for 5 mins?

 

[blinx9900]

Protect them from what? Obvious things like not letting them walk home at night etc, but what exactly is going to happen if someone looks at her for more than two seconds or you go for a piss and leave them alone for 5 mins?

Someone can slip them a date **** drug, drag them away and **** them. As far fetched as it sounds it is a very real issue though my concerns are more the woman feeling uncomfortable without me there as i know other guys may try to hit on her in my absence. My female friends have said on multiple occasions "the minute you leave me a lone guys start hitting on me, don't leave!"

I suppose if you've always lived in some nice area where people are all polite i suppose this is not an issue, USA is not like that... USA is different that every other country as everybody is a different race, there is no sense of comradeship or belonging, this leads to a very selfish attitude most people take up and selfish people do rude and hurtful things to other people.

 

[blinx9900]

Jokeshopbeard- I have not read your last post yet, it is 301am and i have work tomorrow, i know you put time into typing it so i want to make sure i give it equal time to read it, don't want to rush through that as i am sure there is some very helpful insight there, your a wise man. Will respond to that later in the day hopefully

divinu- The answer to your first question is in my previous novel of a response lol, it will be easier if i copy/past it

I am not a religious man so i have no god or church to turn to. My family is wonderful and loving but they cannot understand me in regards to these complicated topics. I had one friend who i could speak to about these sort of things but he passed away, i had a second friend as well but her and i no longer speak for various reasons. With that said despite having a large loving family and more wonderful friends than any man can hope for i still am left with somewhat a sense of emptiness or incompleteness. At first i confused these feelings with loneliness but it is not that. I am not lonely at all, more so i feel incomplete and im trying my hardest to forge forward and become a better man.

As i mentioned in the post right above this most of my female friends actually really appreciate this, however i never considered that perspective you mention about me invading there space, i see now in the past i have been guilty of that with 1 girl in particular but the rest it has always been welcome. Thank you for that bit of insight, i know see this topic from 1 more perspective, the more perspectives i can see it from the closer i will be to the truth And about kissing i am Persian, we too do this, but since we are in America now we only do this amongst family

PaulJ- No i don't stare at other people, i consider it rude, unless i am admiring something about them, perhaps there clothing or an interesting hairstyle etc, then i make sure to give them a bit of a smile so they know it is not a hostile stare.

Thank you everyone for contributing. Someone asked what i do if someone does stare at me for more than 2seconds? Well i usually try and be civil and ignore it, often times i will give them the deathstare to make them realize i am aware and it is not welcome, they usually look away immidiately, on a few occasions it has escalated to something verbal in which i have asked the person "can i help you with something?" they usually say no and walk off. Though i don't look intimidating i do not fear confrontation when most people do, i have no problem asking a strange what the hell he is looking at, and when the see that confidence they usually get nervous. Again i don't know why they were staring in the first place, i just want them to stop, i don't to kick someones ass over it or make a scene in public etc...

 

[GTLVR82]

People's natural curiosity and want to constantly categorize and "size up" other people is normal. This boils down to looking at other people and comparing themselves to that person. They are just sizing up the world around them whether it be an inanimate object or a human being. This is something you need to understand. Each situation is different, yes, BUT you should assume they're just making assumptions about you just as you would about others.
What you mentioned before about the negatives of those of us living in the states is dead-on and which is why I hate living here so much. That sense of comradeship is only felt when I'm with my military unit because we DO watch each others backs, we do feel like family, and we do have the same moral base.
Edit: On a side note what sign are you? Although it may sound strange my sign description is who I am....much cause for thinking after i read it. I spent WEEKS thinking about the kind of person I am. "Know Thyself" http://www.gotohoroscope.com/aquarius-meanings.html http://www.astrology-online.com/aquarius.htm <---this one is more accurate and based on the ancient astrological knowledge.

 

[Saint Matt]

Blinx, you are my new best friend and I never want to get on the wrong side of you

 

[PaulJ]

Someone can slip them a date **** drug, drag them away and **** them. As far fetched as it sounds it is a very real issue though my concerns are more the woman feeling uncomfortable without me there as i know other guys may try to hit on her in my absence. My female friends have said on multiple occasions "the minute you leave me a lone guys start hitting on me, don't leave!"

I suppose if you've always lived in some nice area where people are all polite i suppose this is not an issue, USA is not like that... USA is different that every other country as everybody is a different race, there is no sense of comradeship or belonging, this leads to a very selfish attitude most people take up and selfish people do rude and hurtful things to other people.

Yeh I see your point, but if someone has their eyes set on drugging them it is going to happen if you are there or not. Everyone I know who has had there drinks spiked has been in a a big group, mainly lads. If the lady is asking you not to leave however, that is different haha.

I agree with the staring, I think it is rude to stare, I just think looking for more than 2 secs may just be a curious look, rather than an actual stare...does that make sense?Once there has been eye contact and maintained for a while I then consider that staring, which is often quite an aggressive guesture really. If people want to look at me they can though, Im not so bothered. Saying that i'm not aggressive at all, like you say its probably a lot to do with different backgrounds.