Edgar friendly
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Right,
I don't really know how to explain this but I'm going to try.
This has been something that's been bugging me for some time, it's not a recent thing however I've noticed that it's been happening a lot since being in the ownership of a Honda, not that I'm pertaining the blame to Honda cars as ultimately I'm the one behind the wheel and the responsibility lies with me.
I'm 33 years of age, no kids and live with my brother. Have always had a cushy decent lifestyle where my parents have always looked after me so can't complain. I've got 7 years no claims and no smash in that 7 period but have had smashes before including rolling a car and knocking someone over when I was 17 (not my fault). I've never had a speeding ticket in my life.
I've basically had Honda's as my last 3 cars, got the EK9 now have had it a few months. Had a CRX VT before that for 3 years and a CRX 16v for about a year and a half prior to that. In between I've also been in the brief ownership of a Golf GT TDI (PD 150) and have had various reasonably quick (and slow cars I must add) before that including a 306 GTI-6, Peugeot 205, E30 BMW 325i amongst others.
To cut a long story short I'm finding that I'm driving like a complete bellend everywhere I go, whether that's in a 30, 40, 50, 60 or 70 zone. It's been happening for some time, I'm talking about years here and has gotten considerably worse during Honda ownership.
It's like I have feelings that I need to show off the power of Honda or how noisy my car is. I'm struggling to drive along at normal speeds most days and I find it hard keeping to the speed limit.
I've become a lot more confident in my own driving ability the last 10 years or so however I do get nervous when giving it the beans or if I'm in 'race' with someone, some other boy racer for example. I seem to get drawn into driving like a prick if someone's trying to have a go, a bit like "my car's faster than yours type of thing". Most of the time no one's actually racing me at all and instead I try and overtake and drive aggressively whenever I get the opportunity to do so and it's making me feel nervous and uneasy.
I do this all the time, it's like a mixture of showing off and enjoying the noise the car makes and the high revs. I feel like I'm the greatest driver on earth sometimes and I know I'm not. The feelings I get when I'm actually flooring it make me feel sick, it's a mixture of feelings really. Fear, fear of driving too quick and being seen by the Police or reported by a member of public, fear of knocking someone down and going to Prison for the rest of my life, fear of coming unstuck and totalling my car.
It's not just that. I'm 34 years old this year and I'm driving round in what is in essence a boy racers car, no disrespect to people here but anything with a big exhaust, noisy induction kit and lowered is a boy racer car, no getting away from it no matter how old you are.
I see people that are a lot younger than me that I recognise from school that are now settled down and have kids and I'm single, 34, have no kids and and am driving round like a bellend showing off pretty much most of the time and I feel embarrased. Everyone I know knows that I am car mad though.
I know people will say "Well if you want to stop driving like you do the sell your car" but I don't want to sell it. I love it, I love performance cars. I'm a petrolhead, I always will be but I just want to start growing up and acting like an adult and not a child and start behaving myself and respecting other drivers around without feeling the need to hammer it every single place I go.
If I'm a passenger in a car I'm the first to have a pop at someone from driving recklessly or out of order yet I'm the biggest hypocrite there is.
I'm scared, I really am. I'm not a bad lad. I have some maturity in me I can be a decent guy but the whole driving thing is worrying me and I need to sort it out. Sorry for the long post.
Does anyone else feel the same?
I don't really know how to explain this but I'm going to try.
This has been something that's been bugging me for some time, it's not a recent thing however I've noticed that it's been happening a lot since being in the ownership of a Honda, not that I'm pertaining the blame to Honda cars as ultimately I'm the one behind the wheel and the responsibility lies with me.
I'm 33 years of age, no kids and live with my brother. Have always had a cushy decent lifestyle where my parents have always looked after me so can't complain. I've got 7 years no claims and no smash in that 7 period but have had smashes before including rolling a car and knocking someone over when I was 17 (not my fault). I've never had a speeding ticket in my life.
I've basically had Honda's as my last 3 cars, got the EK9 now have had it a few months. Had a CRX VT before that for 3 years and a CRX 16v for about a year and a half prior to that. In between I've also been in the brief ownership of a Golf GT TDI (PD 150) and have had various reasonably quick (and slow cars I must add) before that including a 306 GTI-6, Peugeot 205, E30 BMW 325i amongst others.
To cut a long story short I'm finding that I'm driving like a complete bellend everywhere I go, whether that's in a 30, 40, 50, 60 or 70 zone. It's been happening for some time, I'm talking about years here and has gotten considerably worse during Honda ownership.
It's like I have feelings that I need to show off the power of Honda or how noisy my car is. I'm struggling to drive along at normal speeds most days and I find it hard keeping to the speed limit.
I've become a lot more confident in my own driving ability the last 10 years or so however I do get nervous when giving it the beans or if I'm in 'race' with someone, some other boy racer for example. I seem to get drawn into driving like a prick if someone's trying to have a go, a bit like "my car's faster than yours type of thing". Most of the time no one's actually racing me at all and instead I try and overtake and drive aggressively whenever I get the opportunity to do so and it's making me feel nervous and uneasy.
I do this all the time, it's like a mixture of showing off and enjoying the noise the car makes and the high revs. I feel like I'm the greatest driver on earth sometimes and I know I'm not. The feelings I get when I'm actually flooring it make me feel sick, it's a mixture of feelings really. Fear, fear of driving too quick and being seen by the Police or reported by a member of public, fear of knocking someone down and going to Prison for the rest of my life, fear of coming unstuck and totalling my car.
It's not just that. I'm 34 years old this year and I'm driving round in what is in essence a boy racers car, no disrespect to people here but anything with a big exhaust, noisy induction kit and lowered is a boy racer car, no getting away from it no matter how old you are.
I see people that are a lot younger than me that I recognise from school that are now settled down and have kids and I'm single, 34, have no kids and and am driving round like a bellend showing off pretty much most of the time and I feel embarrased. Everyone I know knows that I am car mad though.
I know people will say "Well if you want to stop driving like you do the sell your car" but I don't want to sell it. I love it, I love performance cars. I'm a petrolhead, I always will be but I just want to start growing up and acting like an adult and not a child and start behaving myself and respecting other drivers around without feeling the need to hammer it every single place I go.
If I'm a passenger in a car I'm the first to have a pop at someone from driving recklessly or out of order yet I'm the biggest hypocrite there is.
I'm scared, I really am. I'm not a bad lad. I have some maturity in me I can be a decent guy but the whole driving thing is worrying me and I need to sort it out. Sorry for the long post.
Does anyone else feel the same?
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